What Can a Dominant Woman Contribute To Your Feminization Process and Experience?

The All Too Often Solitary and Lonely Feminine Experience

The Fear In Sharing Crossdressing Desires

I know I don’t have to tell most of you about the myriad of reasons that crossdressing men decline to share their attraction and desires involving women’s clothing and feminine behaviors. It can be a real fear-inducing prospect when considering or trying to announce and explain crossdressing desires to a significant other or even a female friend.

The Fear Is Real, Not Imagined

Everything from a deep fear of rejection to immediate false assumptions drawn about sexual orientation to the desire to prevent public exposure and damage to relationships (and more) can all contribute to a position in which a man is left in complete isolation with a part of themselves that brings -in and of itself- a great deal of happiness, contentment, a sense of stress relief, and a sexual rush.

Given that many crossdressing men have a predominantly lifelong history of affinity for all things feminine, the longing to dress in a feminine manner, and the desire to experience those familiar feelings that arise when dressed, the prospect of being judged, rejected or censured in any way with regard to something that is so desired and enjoyable is nothing but a roadblock to sharing, whether we’re taking about a man who adores crossdressing, a bigender individual or a even trans woman, who would typically seen a trans woman as a man who simply likes to crossdress (which is such a incorrect and offensive presumption).

When Transgender Identity Is a Part of the Personal Puzzle

For those who are transgender (whether they are bigender, trans women or of another alternative gender identity), whereby there is a sense of self-perception as to gender identity that does not coincide with any societal, cultural, and/or religious mandates that anatomy (one’s biological / anatomical, “birth-assigned” sex) arbitrarily dictates and hence must equate to gender (one’s self-experience as male or female), the stakes can be even higher, as gender identity encompasses far more than just attire and sexuality – as well as the opinions, suppositions, and/or demands of external factors, such as individuals and the dogma of any group.

The Stress in Revealing One’s True Self as TG

Depending upon the TG individual’s life situation and relational dynamics, the prospect of revealing that one feels (that one IS) both male AND female (either equally or to varying degrees, but where both are definitively present and experienced [bigender]) or that one feels trapped inside a body that feels foreign and completely out of alignment with how one experiences his or her gender identification (transsexual) can be a horrifying consideration.

The resulting stress of weighing personal truth against environment (home life, career, relationships, community, etc.) can be nothing short of pure torment; therefore, a bigender individual or trans woman may live a life of feeling “damned if I do and damned if I don’t,” which is a horrible place to be.

“Real” Women Just Don’t Seem To Get It

It doesn’t help that women-at-large seem to buy into incorrect societal stereotypes and are at the ready to jump to conclusions, pass harsh judgments, and even flatly refuse to attempt any understanding at the prospect of any man finding joy in crossdressing (to any extent).

“OMG! Are You Gay?!”

I’ve heard more than my fair share of horror stories where women women jump to immediate false assumptions drawn about one’s sexual orientation when it comes to crossdressing, and all of this results from a refusal to LISTEN, ask questions, LISTEN, toss aside labels, LISTEN, and make a concerted effort to UNDERSTAND.

“Does This Mean You Want to Be a Woman?!”

The same principles apply to this reflexive assumption as with the “gay conclusion,” where there is a tendency for women to jump to conclusions. Sure, there are individuals they have “known” as “men,” who are in actuality trans women, but there ARE MEN who crossdress and have no questions about their gender identities.

“…But Where Does a Dominant Woman Fit into This?”

With a woman and Mistress such as myself, who specializes in sessions with both crossdressing men, bigender individuals, AND trans women, you can rest assured that I will see and accept you for who you are. I will make no assumptions, judge you, grill you as if you’re a criminal, and/or refuse or neglect to strive to understand you in your own uniqueness as a person.

I will openly and fully accept you, work to understand you, and support you to the utmost. After all, those points are my goals, and I pride myself on adhering to and achieving those goals. I will hold you accountable and push you to be true to yourself; I will refuse to let you be less than honest with, explore, and BE who you are and were meant to be.

That said, it is up to you to find all that out for yourself. When you are ready to find an outlet where you can be completely free, open, and 100% yourself, know I will understand you, unconditionally accept you, and support you.

I will be here waiting…